4 year Anniversary weekend recap

This weekend, CrossPointe celebrated four years in ministry. We kicked things off with a big cookout we called Community Day. We had free food, cotton candy, snow cones, 5 inflatables, and a 27 team cornhole tournament. On Tuesday, we sent out 10,000 postcards advertising the event and our service Sunday. The cookout was a blast. Tons of people came out. Many of them had never been to our church. We could barely keep the hamburgers coming fast enough for all our hungry guests. We went through almost 300 hamburgers in just 3 hours (they were so good I ate two, I saw a few people grab even more, thanks Jeremy for the hamburger hookup!). Here are some pictures of the event.

the corn hole tournament was packed!

time to eat!

Our Sunday services went really well too. We had a ton of visitors from the cookout come to church. We had 154 people in service. Our elements class had 6 first time kids in it. It was incredible to see so many visitors. Many commented how friendly our church had been at the cookout on Saturday. Here are some pictures of the service, as well as the video of the entire service. Enjoy!

God has been good to us in th last four years!

We love seeing people praise Jesus’ name!

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the current crisis in youth ministry

When I was in high school I attended youth group activities quite often. I was warned that at age 18 many teenagers leave church. I watched at age 16 though as many of my friends became disinterested in church. The exodus used to occur at 18-20 years of age, but now I am seeing signs that kids are leaving church at age 15 and 16. The church has lost its ability to connect with teenagers and even kids today. What has changed? Is the church doomed? I believe there are many answers to these questions. I also believe that we don’t want to hear some of the real reasons kids are leaving the church. I have three questions I believe we need to answer honestly.

Why is the church trying to compete with sports and activities?

 Over and over I see programs at churches aimed at kids who want to play sports. The thought is “if you’re gonna play sports, why not do it at our church?” Many kids programs at churches rely heavily on using games and sports to keep kids involved. Churches are investing lots of man hours, money, and space in being the hip new place to play sports. When did the role of the church transform from teaching kids about God, to training kids to be athletes with a hint of spirituality. When did we stop going into the sports world as coaches making a difference, and start sectioning off our own little christian leagues with few if any lost people?  When did Sunday morning become this big game we play with kids? We have themed rooms, professional stages, bright fancy areas for games, etc. When God sees us turning kids ministry into a carnival, do we really think He is pleased? Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for top notch, first rate kids programs at church- if discipleship is the goal. With all the effort we have put into making kids and youth ministry in general more fun and exciting, why haven’t we seen a decrease in the numbers of young people exiting our churches. We aren’t just another fun place. We aren’t just another youth sports league. We are the church. Our job is to connect people with Christ, and teach them about His Word. Sadly not everyone will stick it out, but does this give us the right to fun it up to keep the numbers up? We are sacrificing the minds of real dedicated Christian kids to entertain the kids who just want to play soccer, dodge ball, or duck, duck goose. We’ve added so much stuff and fluff; the message is getting lost in the mix. We have to remember who and what we are, and what we are called to do.

Why is it that the role of a youth pastor is usually entrusted to someone who either has no children or is currently raising their children?

 Wouldn’t it make more sense to entrust this position to someone with a little bit of experience with raising kids. Imagine a youth pastor helping parents raise teenagers, and explaining how to deal with a difficult 13 year old girl using the illustration of how he dealt with his daughter when she was 13. Instead I am 25 with no kids, trying to help people with decades more experience than me. Sadly by the time most guys have the experience, they’ve moved on into Associate or Head Pastor Positions. I admire guys who are 40, 50, and older who still work with teenagers. Because ultimately it’s the parents we are trying to help. Many churches have this idea that the youth or children’s pastor should be a kind of second parent to the kids at the church. The truth is my job as a youth pastor is to equip the parents to train their kids to be Godly young Christians. I can’t raise a child or teenager in 4-5 hours a week. If a child is going to make it, there has to be a solid home life backing up what is being taught at church. The same principle is true in schooling. A teacher can’t raise good kids, even with the 45 hours a week they have with the children. Kids are capable of being taught any and everything. So the question is what are Mom and Dad teaching them at home? Next what are they being taught at school? And finally what are they being taught at church? I decide what they are taught at church. I can only recommend Mom and Dad what to teach them at home. I have no say in what they learn at school. How do we as youth Pastors overcome this challenge? I believe we need to involve Mom and Dad as much as possible. Tell them what you see hear by and about their kids. Have regular meetings with parents and kids to explain the goals of raising good Christian kids. Ultimately we have to reach Mom and Dad and help them be the best parents they can be with God’s help. It won’t be easy. It’s not the 50’s anymore. Most homes have two parents working at least two full time jobs. Kids have more activities than to fill their schedule than ever before. Parents are busier than they have ever been. We need to lift these parents up in prayer and let them know we are rooting for them.
Are we willing to deal with the silent sins in our churches?


There are some sins you hear people talk about all the time. However, there is one sin I rarely, probably never hear mentioned. Pornography is one of those silent sins. We preach against lying, stealing, adultery, murder, drugs, drunkenness, etc. However, over 50% of Christian men struggle with pornography. Close to 51% of Pastors say internet Porn is a real temptation, while 37% say it is a current struggle. Right at 28% of those admitting to sexual addiction are women. Two-thirds of divorces cite the internet as a cause. Let those numbers set in for a minute. We preach and teach on things some are dealing with while the high majority of sin goes unquestioned. Now consider that people don’t just wake up addicted to porn. There is a first time for everything. The adult film industry says that 20-30% of its audience is children. The average age for exposure to porn for the first time is 11. Over 70% of teen girls and 66% of teen boys admit to posting sexually suggestive content. Over 70% of kids get a cell phone within 18 months of their 9th birthday. In a poll of 300 girls, 30% of them aged 9-15 admit to sexting.
The internet is available not just at home anymore, but on your cell phone. A child can view porn on their ipod with an internet connection. I know of a boy whose mom had no internet, and no cell phone. However, he used his ipod’s wi-fi to pick up his neighbors router, and would view porn for hours every night. We have to realize the stakes are higher than ever. We can’t be there 24/7 to watch over them. Therefore, we have to teach them the dangers of porn. The talk used to be sitting your kid down and explaining sex. I’m afraid today we need to start talking earlier about something else-porn. Your child will have plenty of opportunities to view it. Let them know early how dangerous it is.
The real reason we don’t deal with it is simple- because many of us are involved with it. We get nervous talking about it, because we are guilty of it. We have to get ourselves clean, and prepare our kids for the most abundant source of defeat they will ever face. We talk to our kids at church regularly about the dangers of phones, internet, texting etc. It’s real, we need to be real about it too.
So back to the original question, “Why are kids leaving the church?” If teens struggle with a sin (like porn) they feel they can’t overcome, and no one will talk about it, why would they stay. They see the hypocrisy in a church that claims to help people, but won’t help them with the sin that is crippling them. Porn is eating our kids for lunch, and we sit idly by ignoring it. It’s not going away. In fact it gets more and more powerful as technology advances. We are experiencing the shift to 3D, so is porn! HD is crystal clear but the next wave is 2k and 3k, cameras with 3x the resolution of an HDTV and 10X the resolution of old TVs. Porn will be there, enhancing the experience they have to offer through social media, internet, phones, TV, Ipads, etc. The enemy has found a silver bullet for ruining kids, adults, marriages, homes etc. He’s winnig because we aren’t even fighting. We have to stand up for our people. Church, deal with the sin in your pews! Your people will thank you.

which denominations are growing/declining in America?

Report from the Religion News Service

(RNS) While mainline Protestant churches in the U.S. continue to experience decades-long decline, the memberships of Pentecostal traditions are on the rise, according to new figures compiled by the National Council of Churches.

Mainline Protestant churches that have seen a fall in membership since the 1970s continued their decline; the Presbyterian Church (USA) reported the greatest membership drop (2.6 percent) of the 25 largest denominations.

The membership declines in mainline churches led to a 1 percent decrease in total U.S. church membership, to 145.8 million.

Pentecostal churches make up four of the 25 largest churches, and both the Assemblies of God and the Church of God (Cleveland, Tenn.) increased in membership. Only six of the 25 largest memberships increased over the previous year.

Jehovah’s Witnesses experienced the greatest growth percentage overall, gaining 4.37 percent according to the yearbook. Several historically black denominations continued a years-long practice of not submitting fresh figures.

The 10 largest Christian bodies reported in the 2011 yearbook are:

1. The Catholic Church: 68.5 million, up 0.57 percent.

2. Southern Baptist Convention: 16.1 million, down .42 percent.

3. The United Methodist Church: 7.8 million, down 1 percent.

4. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints: 6 million, up 1.42 percent.

5. The Church of God in Christ: 5.5 million, no membership updates reported.

6. National Baptist Convention, USA: 5 million, no membership updates reported.

7. Evangelical Lutheran Church in America: 4.5 million, down 1.96 percent.

8. National Baptist Convention of America, 3.5 million, no membership updates reported.

9. Assemblies of God: 2.9 million, up .52 percent.

10. Presbyterian Church (USA): 2.7 million, down 2.61 percent.

Why I love kid’s ministry

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When I was in college I had a real fear of speaking to children under the age of 10. A large part of my ministry at CrossPointe is teaching kids of every age. Speaking to Teens and Adults has always been relatively comfortable to me, but speaking to little ones presented a unique challenge that I didn’t want to tackle. I had to learn to let go. I had to learn to get out of my confort zone. To really communicate with kids I can’t be concerned with how I look or sound. To be honest I know for a fact I look really silly when I am teaching the kids sometimes. However, that is when I really connect with the kids. The kids aren’t impressed with a college degree, alliterated points, perfectly timed transitions, etc. Actually the kids love silly little illustrations about my dog Griffin.

I love that every Sunday morning I get to worship with kids who enjoy real worship, enjoy having a good time learning about God, and enjoy allowing Jesus to change their hearts. Shouldn’t we as Christians have the faith of a child? I believe we should have the faith of a child, as well as the joy kids seem to hold on to through the toughest of situations. Just a random thought after a long rewarding day in kid’s ministry.

How the internet has enabled churches

Our church is just getting started. We are still a small community of believers who are trying to reach a city. We have never averaged over 100 in attendence. We are one of the newest churches in Suffolk. However, online, none of that matters. I have worked hard getting our church online credibility. When you search “church suffolk” in google in our area (google knows your location) our website is number 2 on the first page. This is a direct result from our site being linked heavily, optimized for search engines and thoroughly prepared for google’s spyders. I encourage you to search church in you area and see where you rank in the page results. I say all of that to show you that online your church isn’t limited by location, number of pews, age of the building, etc. People looking for a church in Suffolk don’t know we aren’t the biggest, best, etc. They just know we are one of the first sites recommended by google to visit. I’d love to tell you we have thousands of people visiting, but we don’t. We have had over 600 visitors in just over 2 years. Many come from invites or postcards we send, but I guarantee many check us out online before coming the first time. Here are 3 benefits the internet affords the modern church today.

It enables churches to have a 24/7 billboard for little to no cost. We started our website before our church launched in 2008. Every month our website gets between 300 and 700 clicks. Sadly only aout half of those cicks are unique visitors. But that’s still 150 people checking out our church. The website allows them to see where we are located, what our services are like, what we have for children, etc. People want to know as much as possible before they visit a church.

It gives people who can’t make it to church anymore a way to still watch/listen as if they were there. Undoubtedly your church has people who are nearing retirement. Many people love their church, but as their bodies age they can’t come as frequently as they’d like. Our sermons are online for anyone to watch, but older church people especially love to feel like they still have a way to be connected. Of course many older poeple have a hard time with computers, but as time goes on the population (even retired peopl) will have more experience with computers.

It gives churches a global reach unlike anything else in history. The other day I was looking at the stats for our videos online. We host at vimeo.com. Their site allows me to see how many times a video was loaded, played, and finished. A video is loaded any time a webpage with our sermon video on it is visited. Our sermons are embedded in my personal blog here, on our church website, and on a few smaller sites. It is played any time someone presses play, and it is finished when someone actually watches all of the video. Since we started uploading sermons, they have been loaded 26,715 times, they have only been played 1,485 times, and the saddest number= only 107 finishes. Now those are pretty sobering numbers when I consider how much time I invest in our website and it’s video content. However, there is a silver lining. Our videos have been played in South Korea, Germany, France, Japan, India, Canada, Romania, Great Britain, Philippines, Spain, Mexico, Brazil, Guatemala, Taiwan, Indonesia, Barbados, Moldova, Australia, Sri Lanka, and Costa Rica. Now, we are a small church, and our website isn’t even a blip on the map compared to many large churches in the world and online, but just think, if our little church can have any impact in that many countries (however small it may be) how much impact is the church as a global community having online!

So I guess my conclusion is: the internet is allowing us to expand the impact of the church far beyond our walls, our community, our state, and even beyond our borders. If our small church can have a little impact, how big an impact can a church of 200, 500, 1,500 have? What if everyone in your church posted a link to your church on facebook? Technology has allowed us a unique opportunity like never before. May we embrace every opportunity to make much of Christ.